BEN

The number one thing Ben helped me to achieve was a reconnection with my children. As a father it’s hard to think of anything more important in life. My favourite a-ha moment when working with Ben was realising how I could be creating boundaries and transitions between the different roles I play in life, which has allowed me to be more present in each role.

I also experienced the value of acknowledging life ‘as it is right now’ as a fundamental basis/requirement for authentic intentional progress.

From ‘landing’ in the present I have been able to bring more curiosity and playfulness into my creative process – which is deeply satisfying. I had become accustomed to ‘hotwiring’ my creative process.

Ben’s way of working is unpressured and freeing. We went at my pace, not his and there were no hidden agendas about getting ‘results’. It was more about guiding me to become aware of deeper fundamental processes and then enabling me to update and improve upon them.

One additional a-ha moment was noticing the difference between saying ‘and’ instead of ‘but’. It encourages integration rather than a binary approach to the reflection of experience.

I reached out to Ben as I was desperate to feel energised about life again. Since meeting with Ben I have noticed a significant shift to my inner dialogue along with a rejuvenated optimism, focus and drive. This is a huge deal for me.

The biggest improvements are the curiosity I now afford my thoughts and the power of intention. This has allowed me to deepen my understanding of my real goals and question myself honestly which is a completely new feeling that I’m still exploring personally. Through this I’ve been able to  remove some unnecessary baggage and put energy into the correct places. I’m already feeling calmer and more in control as well as a more present dad which was one of my main goals.

I have long been told ‘be kind to yourself’ and while that made sense I actually didn’t know how to do that or what it truly meant until working with Ben. I’d say the most effective exercise that helped me connect to my thoughts was to ‘interview my troll’. I found this very funny and went away and learned a lot about what my blocks were. This new curious approach has been a complete game-changer that positively affects almost every aspect of how I now process thoughts and information.I now feel more connected to what matters and, through other exercises, feel like I have the tools to achieve it. 

There have been many many great analogies and dots that Ben has helped me connect but one particular moment was in our first session when we did a visualisation exercise and it became apparent to me I hadn’t clearly defined my goals, which was a surprise to me as I had naturally felt like I was on a path and it was external things that held me back. 

This realisation was a huge help in understanding why I didn’t feel in control or sense of achievement. From this exercise I was/am now aware of the importance of decluttering and defining goals which has helped me get back on track, feel more in control and strangely lighter as I was able to cut through some BS goals I didn’t really care about. This has brought excitement and hope to the future but also allowed me to review things I had already achieved and forgot to appreciate.

I find the sessions so light and breezy, probably due to how Ben uses his gift of humour to help me relax and get into it. Our sessions are a highlight of my week. I always have at least a handful of ‘oh yeah’ moments, some mind expanding concepts and I always leave with energy, focus and new techniques to try. Ben’s methods have ignited connections that other practitioners were unable to and I wholeheartedly recommend you chat to him.

I have worked as a Counsellor for many years and have had counselling myself at various points in my life. I have no hesitation in recommending Ben if you are looking to move forward in your life.

I was searching for a therapist who had experience of ADHD. I found Ben via the Headstuff ADHD Therapy website. As soon as I made contact with Ben I knew I had made the right decision and felt a real connection with him.

Since working together I have become more self aware, feeling more confident in dealing with challenges. Recognising my significant strengths and life experience. Ben has enabled me to see life’s challenges as opportunities for growth rather than problems.

I have been able to recognise the importance of addressing my own needs and learning to say no. I realised that I have lived my life putting the needs of others before my own. This realisation has been life changing for me.

I have been surprised how after a lifetime of struggling how much I have grown in just a few sessions with Ben. I have felt empowered by our sessions and have been able to apply the insights to my life between sessions.

Ben has a unique way of working enabling you to recognise and tap into your inner strengths and talents. Some of our most productive sessions have been when I’ve not had an agenda and worked with my feelings in the moment.

The number one thing Ben helped me to achieve was a reconnection with my children.  As a father it’s hard to think of anything more important in life.  My favourite a-ha moment when working with Ben was realising how I could be creating boundaries and transitions between the different roles I play in life, which has allowed me to be more present in each role.

I also experienced the value of acknowledging life ‘as it is right now’ as a fundamental basis/requirement for authentic intentional progress.

From ‘landing’ in the present I have been able to bring more curiosity and playfulness into my creative process – which is deeply satisfying. I had become accustomed to ‘hotwiring’ my creative process. 

Ben’s way of working is unpressured and freeing. We went at my pace, not his and there were no hidden agendas about getting ‘results’. It was more about guiding me to become aware of deeper fundamental processes and then enabling me to update and improve upon them.

One additional a-ha moment was noticing the difference between saying ‘and’ instead of ‘but’. It encourages integration rather than a binary approach to the reflection of experience.

I reached out to Ben as I was desperate to feel energised about life again. Since meeting with Ben I have noticed a significant shift to my inner dialogue along with a rejuvenated optimism, focus and drive. This is a huge deal for me.

The biggest improvements are the curiosity I now afford my thoughts and the power of intention. This has allowed me to deepen my understanding of my real goals and question myself honestly which is a completely new feeling that I’m still exploring personally. Through this I’ve been able to  remove some unnecessary baggage and put energy into the correct places. I’m already feeling calmer and more in control as well as a more present dad which was one of my main goals.

I have long been told ‘be kind to yourself’ and while that made sense I actually didn’t know how to do that or what it truly meant until working with Ben. I’d say the most effective exercise that helped me connect to my thoughts was to ‘interview my troll’. I found this very funny and went away and learned a lot about what my blocks were. This new curious approach has been a complete game-changer that positively affects almost every aspect of how I now process thoughts and information. I now feel more connected to what matters and, through other exercises, feel like I have the tools to achieve it. 

There have been many many great analogies and dots that Ben has helped me connect but one particular moment was in our first session when we did a visualisation exercise and it became apparent to me I hadn’t clearly defined my goals, which was a surprise to me as I had naturally felt like I was on a path and it was external things that held me back. 

This realisation was a huge help in understanding why I didn’t feel in control or sense of achievement. From this exercise I was/am now aware of the importance of decluttering and defining goals which has helped me get back on track, feel more in control and strangely lighter as I was able to cut through some BS goals I didn’t really care about. This has brought excitement and hope to the future but also allowed me to review things I had already achieved and forgot to appreciate.

I find the sessions so light and breezy, probably due to how Ben uses his gift of humour to help me relax and get into it. Our sessions are a highlight of my week. I always have at least a handful of ‘oh yeah’ moments, some mind expanding concepts and I always leave with energy, focus and new techniques to try. Ben’s methods have ignited connections that other practitioners were unable to and I wholeheartedly recommend you chat to him.

I have worked as a Counsellor for many years and have had counselling myself at various points in my life. I have no hesitation in recommending Ben if you are looking to move forward in your life.

I was searching for a therapist who had experience of ADHD. I found Ben via the Headstuff ADHD Therapy website. As soon as I made contact with Ben I knew I had made the right decision and felt a real connection with him.

Since working together I have become more self aware, feeling more confident in dealing with challenges. Recognising my significant strengths and life experience. Ben has enabled me to see life’s challenges as opportunities for growth rather than problems.

I have been able to recognise the importance of addressing my own needs and learning to say no. I realised that I have lived my life putting the needs of others before my own. This realisation has been life changing for me.

I have been surprised how after a lifetime of struggling how much I have grown in just a few sessions with Ben. I have felt empowered by our sessions and have been able to apply the insights to my life between sessions.

Ben has a unique way of working enabling you to recognise and tap into your inner strengths and talents. Some of our most productive sessions have been when I’ve not had an agenda and worked with my feelings in the moment.